It’s wedding season and Love is in the air! I just received a lovely invitation to my nieces wedding in 6 weeks! What hints do you have for me so that I can be a “stellar” wedding guest?
Your RSVP:
Please, Please, Please RSVP by the date requested on your nieces invitation. Remember the person paying for the food needs an accurate count of everyone attending the wedding to plan for enough food for their hungry guests.
Your GIFT:
Be a great gift giver. Pick out a thoughtful card, write something personal inside. Buy from the couple’s wedding gift registry or write them a check. Base your gift on how close you are to the couple, whether you are attending with a guest (multiple gift by two) and how much you can afford. Send the gift to the couple before the wedding – please do not bring the gift to the wedding.
Your OUTFIT:
Ladies do not wear white or cream to a wedding. If the event is a black tie affair respect the couple’s wishes. Men should wear a tuxedo and ladies a party/evening dress.
The Meet and Greet:
Be sure to talk to the bride and the groom, and to the bride and the groom’s families. A wedding is a big occasion for the entire family. Take a minute to offer your congratulations even if you have never met the family members. Even a simple thank you for having you is much appreciated. Keep your conversation proportionately to how well you know the person you are talking to.
The Food:
You are there to mingle and celebrate! Your plate represents the cost of your attendance so be a gracious guest and eat everything on your plate.
The Toast:
Please make sure you know the bride’s name. Be the BEST man not the long-winded man. Keep it short with a mix of sincerity and a few jokes. Raunchy stories are for the bachelor party not for the wedding toast.
The Open Bar:
Drink responsibly. Drink and be merry but don’t embarrass yourself or cause a scene that detracts from the bride and groom. If you are with “that” kind person please escort them directly to their bed to sleep it off.
The Reception:
If there is a band or DJ you need to dance at least once or twice it’s the right thing to do. If you do not like to dance or are a very bad dancer please at least socialize, request an appropriate song, and clap after each dance.
The Cake Cutting:
Popular tradition of cutting the cake signals the time when guests can politely leave for whatever reason. i.e. they are tired, have small children at home, are eight months pregnant, are elderly, have to get up very early to catch their flight back home, are grumpy, etc.
Remember if you are one of those people who are thinking about leaving right after the cake cutting think about what you will miss…the First Dance followed right after the groom's heartfelt thank you, you don’t want to miss that or the Father Daughter dance, the Mother Son song, the DJ playing just the right song to open up the dance floor for everyone to dance, the bouquet and garter toss, the special surprise the bride has planned for the groom and the send off for the bride and groom a magical ending for a perfect wedding night with bubbles and sparklers.
Your RSVP:
Please, Please, Please RSVP by the date requested on your nieces invitation. Remember the person paying for the food needs an accurate count of everyone attending the wedding to plan for enough food for their hungry guests.
Your GIFT:
Be a great gift giver. Pick out a thoughtful card, write something personal inside. Buy from the couple’s wedding gift registry or write them a check. Base your gift on how close you are to the couple, whether you are attending with a guest (multiple gift by two) and how much you can afford. Send the gift to the couple before the wedding – please do not bring the gift to the wedding.
Your OUTFIT:
Ladies do not wear white or cream to a wedding. If the event is a black tie affair respect the couple’s wishes. Men should wear a tuxedo and ladies a party/evening dress.
The Meet and Greet:
Be sure to talk to the bride and the groom, and to the bride and the groom’s families. A wedding is a big occasion for the entire family. Take a minute to offer your congratulations even if you have never met the family members. Even a simple thank you for having you is much appreciated. Keep your conversation proportionately to how well you know the person you are talking to.
The Food:
You are there to mingle and celebrate! Your plate represents the cost of your attendance so be a gracious guest and eat everything on your plate.
The Toast:
Please make sure you know the bride’s name. Be the BEST man not the long-winded man. Keep it short with a mix of sincerity and a few jokes. Raunchy stories are for the bachelor party not for the wedding toast.
The Open Bar:
Drink responsibly. Drink and be merry but don’t embarrass yourself or cause a scene that detracts from the bride and groom. If you are with “that” kind person please escort them directly to their bed to sleep it off.
The Reception:
If there is a band or DJ you need to dance at least once or twice it’s the right thing to do. If you do not like to dance or are a very bad dancer please at least socialize, request an appropriate song, and clap after each dance.
The Cake Cutting:
Popular tradition of cutting the cake signals the time when guests can politely leave for whatever reason. i.e. they are tired, have small children at home, are eight months pregnant, are elderly, have to get up very early to catch their flight back home, are grumpy, etc.
Remember if you are one of those people who are thinking about leaving right after the cake cutting think about what you will miss…the First Dance followed right after the groom's heartfelt thank you, you don’t want to miss that or the Father Daughter dance, the Mother Son song, the DJ playing just the right song to open up the dance floor for everyone to dance, the bouquet and garter toss, the special surprise the bride has planned for the groom and the send off for the bride and groom a magical ending for a perfect wedding night with bubbles and sparklers.
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